Hi I'm Jacqui, thanks for visiting.
I found a book that has really helped me deal with my traumas, reduce my anxiety, and frankly to help my relationship.
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You see, I have been hurting Mike for 14 years, the person that I love the most, because each time I got triggered, I turned into the 5 year old, scared, rejected, little girl and he was no longer the man to me, he was my mother that I was trying to get love and acceptance from desperately.
Mike hurt me in return because when he got triggered from me hurting him, he became the little boy begging his mom not to leave and to just love him.
We both had no idea that we were living in this cycle of hurt. We were just surviving. But, by me "surviving", I created a stored area of pain in my body that turned into cancer. This can also be diabetes, high blood pressure, auto-immune disease, etc.
I have been through counseling, but experts are now finding out that counseling causes us to relive the trauma over and over, and this is why it doesn't work well. Hence why people are in therapy for years. I went to Christian counseling and two professional counselors, and nothing helped. The thing that worked for me, to break my painful, trigger cycles is NLP, Neuro Linguístic Programing. This allows me to replace the bad memory with a good one. What are my bad memories that this has helped with?
Triggers from rape and parental abuse
Fear
Paranoia
Panic attacks
Fear of the dark
PTSD
Rejection
Never good enough
Not being accepted
Physically beaten head to toe
Jealousy from parents
I never realized that this was stored inside of me and came lashing out at Mike whenever he said "something" that set me off. I thought we just "argued" a lot. Nope. This was us literally defending ourselves in that original moment that we got hurt. This is crazy stuff. But now Mike and I both are better, getting better, and coming to each other from a place of healing and love.
This book is very powerful and helped me because for the first time in 30 years I haven't had a panic attack. NLP, Neuro Linguístic Programing helps by reprogramming the mind so that we can see the good, rather than focusing on the bad of what is happening in our lives. This helps with any trauma. It's simply amazing.
I also work with Mike's cousin that is a Licensed NLP Practitioner. It's really good to be able to talk with someone to get the feelings and trauma out.
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